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One such woman was Lin Li-hua, a young barber from the countryside of southern Taiwan. She married an African American officer and emigrated to the U.S with him. It was not an easy marriage. For more than 30 years, Lin harbored much grievance and resentment toward her husband and their marriage. Things changed when she was introduced to Tzu Chi. This is her story.
The smiling couple in the black-and-white wedding photo radiated happiness. The bride, Lin Li-hua (林麗華), was only 18 years old. She was already pregnant then with their first child.
This was no typical Taiwanese wedding. The man Lin was marrying was I.W. Harper Jr., a U.S. Navy officer stationed in Taiwan. He was also African American. Although not unheard of, marrying across cultural and racial lines over 30 years ago was not common. If Lin was to survive, she knew she needed to embrace her marriage with great courage and willpower.
Lin grew up in a poor family in the countryside of southern Taiwan. Because the traditional cultural view at the time favored boys over girls, Lin, the oldest daughter, was told to start working before she even completed elementary school. “Grandma said that schooling was of no use for girls. She told me to quit studying and work as an apprentice barber,” Lin recalled.
A few years later, one of Lin’s friends helped her get a job at a barbershop near a U.S. military base. This is where she met Harper, a young naval officer from Arkansas. They spent time together after she got off work and soon fell in love. Half a year later Lin discovered she was pregnant, and she and Harper decided to get married.
Many of her friends and relatives considered it risky to marry a foreigner, especially an African American, but Lin was determined to make the marriage work. She made up her mind to follow and settle down with her husband no matter where he went. When the Navy transferred Harper back to the United States, she packed up their newborn baby and all their possessions and went dutifully with him.